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August 23, 2005

friends are the bacon bits in the salad bowl of life...

I'm not a xanga person. Maybe you find that odd, because I occasionally post blogs here and there, and they're supposedly not that different from xanga websites. If I ever get a xanga website, though, I probably wouldn't write in it at all. Honestly. I usually wait for the right moment, when inspiration strikes like lightning and I just type away, like now. But I love it when people write good stuff up in xanga entries. A good friend of mine posted on her xanga site:

"Someone once told me that each friend you have reflects one single part of your own unique personality. However your friend is defined, you may also be defined as, but not entirely. Just a small part of your personality is reflected by a single other person."

Total props for that xanga thought. I realized it was true as soon as I read it, but then I was just out tonight with three friends of mine and it became even more true, if that's possible. All of us, while we were various degrees of blonde, were also various degrees of the same person. Maybe you think I'm crazy, and that I'm pretty much saying that everybody is essentially the same person. The opposite is true. Everyone is pretty much everybody, but they reflect each other so much that, well, you find that maybe they're different by definition- they have a different name, or a different personality, or a different height- but your multi-faceted character also reflects the people you're friends with. As Crush, the surfer turtle in Finding Nemo, would say, "Wh-whoa, dude!"

Yeah. See, every friend you have is like a door to a different world. Basically, the concept of what I'm saying is just that you take after your friends in some way, but sometimes you just haven't opened a door that leads to a new world yet. So, think of it this way..

If Jane has eighty-seven (87) friends when she's 15, and she has one hundred and forty-three (143) friends when she's 20, she just opened fifty-six (56) doors in five years. If you go along at a rate of fifty-six doors every five years, you've got.. two hundred and eighty (280) new worlds in 25 years. Sounds like a pretty darn big adventure to me. And if that's the idea, imagine how many doors there are inside you. Everyone you meet opens a different door in you, really. I've never met a single person who has everyone view him or her in the exact same way. That would be incredibly boring, wouldn't it?

See, if you take my group I went out with tonight as an example, you'd see that there are tons of things about my personality that are reflected through my friends. I've noticed in my sojourns that people are generally very fascinated with mirrors. They spend hours in front of them everyday, trying to preen themselves until they attain that perfect degree of care and carelessness that they hope will impress others. I'm thinking that maybe one of the reasons we are so attracted to other people in general is because we subconsciously realize that they are like mirrors. Another xanga gem, and I don't think it's a fluke- "the best mirror is an old friend". Mm-hmm. Yeah. When you get together with a bunch of old friends, you realize just how much you've changed, or maybe how much you've stayed the same and how much they haven't.

I think, though, that the best mirrors are just friends- old or new. I tend to underestimate intuition in people, and I consider that a flaw. I've grown to love that flaw, because it helps me realize over and over again how much my friends see that I don't, or how differently they perceive things. It's like being lost in a Chris Van Allsburg book (Jumanji, The Polar Express), and then jumping out of all the different illustrations and jumping into others- you see things differently each time. Or, if you want to think of it in main title terms (read more about main titles in my first entry), just conjure up HBO's Carnivale Emmy-winning opening sequence (designed by A52). Well, a bit less dramatic than that, but you get the idea- jumping in and out of all different types of worlds, you know.

So, have fun. Summer is officially dwindling away now, and you have the opportunity to open doors to new worlds. Just remember to not stay inside one world too long, lest you miss out on other different worlds. And take out an old friend for a cup o' joe sometime, just to see how much you've changed... or not.

Posted by robyn at August 23, 2005 4:38 AM

Comments

Heee.. Wonder who wrote that?! Someone is a lil sneaky :)

Posted by: Jo at August 27, 2005 1:53 AM

 
 

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